Sunday, August 3, 2014

An Update on the Hair

And this is why I am so glad I have this blog.  My very best friend, Beth, has an Aunt who took it upon herself to write me a message in response to my last post, "Bravery".  Because her message really made me think again and gave me back my confidence, I would like to share it with you all:
"Hi Kelly -- 
(Then she said a lot of really nice stuff about my blog and writing, which made me smile and blush and feel really good and I think that is just for me so I am not going to copy it here.  Then she said...)   
Now, on to what really made me totally angry -- and I mean really angry, postal/road rage angry. That woman you went to who just clucked and coo'd over your hair did you a terrible disservice making you feel that way you did when you walked out of her salon.  You should NOT have felt that way.  She was just a bad, lazy stylist.  I mean, of course your hair will just keep getting better and better, but why didn't she even try to work with what you have already....Looking at your photos!  I think she had some hair to work with and didn't even try.  I mean heck, I even see stray strands peeking over your ears for heavens sake.  Even with just a quarter of an inch difference she could have really given it some shape. She could have shaved up the sides a bit and then totally spiked the top with tons of gell (the hardening stuff some of Ian's 19 year old friends use) and then.....gasp, tried to talk you into a wild blond color so you could have strutted out pf the place with a "Kelly meets Miley Cyrus" look. Yup, she didn't even try.  Also, you have that color hair that just begs, Begs, BEGS to be blonder. You should have walked out of there feeling like a rock star!   Anyway, there is NO REASON you should have had to feel brave to walk into a salon..and no reason you should have walked out of there feeling the way you did. That woman had no true artistry or styling imagination.  Check out Miley's sides....Shorter than yours!!! Give yourself a few weeks and then go to someone decent and start rockin' it girl! 
PAX - Your fan Ann G."

Wow.  So ridiculously cool.  So here is what I wrote back to Aunt Ann:

Hi Ann,

Oh my goodness, how nice of you to write that message to me!  You made me feel so much better.  And... YOU ARE TOTALLY RIGHT!  Now I am looking in the mirror at the length of my hair and I can clearly see that there is length there that she could have cut off and made into something.

Everyone has been right all along - I could get it trimmed!  She convinced me otherwise with her ridiculousness.  I shouldn't have listened to her with all of her coo-ing and clucking.  I just should've gotten the hell out of there as fast as I could and found someone who knew what they were doing.  I just felt so humiliated.  I should not have doubted all my friends and acquaintances.  How silly of me.  I am going to find someone who can do this right.  In the meantime...all I did today was fluff it up when I got out of the shower - no gel or anything - and even that seems to have made a difference.  I wasn't confident in what I was doing before, but now I am just going to go with it.  Already I like it so much better.  Why couldn't she just have showed me what a difference that could make?  She was a dork.  I feel so so much better - thank you so much for pointing that out to me!

Grateful!
Kelly

Not quite Miley Cyrus, but at least I made it fluffier and have a bit more of a style!


I felt kinda bad when I wrote that last post, but venting out my frustration allowed me to get over it and move past it.  Now, I am glad I wrote it.  I had several people come up to me at church today and tell me that they enjoyed it and Ann's feedback made me re-think my own thoughts and come up with a different conclusion.  Today is a much better hair day.  Thanks Ann!